I believe the root of all people is kindness and love and I want to believe that all people have the best intentions and are emotionally balanced and healthy.
However, the reality is that, due to many reasons that I have shared in the past and in my Overcoming Depression Program, this kindness and love is often clouded in one way or another and many people are toxic to our own mental well-being as well as theirs.
Just like our natural born body (physical) systems that are in place to keep us healthy, due to a plethora of factors, can become damaged, blocked, and toxic, so can our emotional, mental and energetic systems.
I have been studying people and their personalities, beliefs, characteristics and their emotional and thought patterns since I was very young girl and I have observed that we are all toxic in one way or another.
We have at least one toxic personality that take away our FULL enjoyment of our relationships or some other part of our life. (If you disagree with this statement, please send me a message pointing me in the direction of this person that is perfect in all of their personality traits–we can all learn from them!!).
Even though, we are all toxic, there are some toxic patterns that can wreck havoc in others, as well as their own, mental and emotional well being that can affect even their health if these patterns are present for extended periods of time and are not handled in constructive manners.
Some of these toxic patterns are often very easy to recognize within a few encounters with a person, like the following:
- arguing constantly
- drinking excessively/alcoholism
- often picking fights, even when the subject does not matter to the person.
- putting others down
- being negative the majority of the time
However, the problem with many toxic patterns, especially the ones listed below, is that people may not easily recognize them before they are affected for too long and the damage to self-confidence and other areas of emotional well being are affected.
Here are 6 of these subtle toxic patterns:
- Manipulating including some forms of triangulating
- Internalizing feelings and problems
- Taking everything personally
- Adapting to others over and over again
- Being insincere
Now, keep in mind, that what I am writing about here are PATTERNS, not one time occurrences. We all make misjudgments, mistakes or do things we may not be very proud of at times that can affect others. But, when there is a repeating occurrence of these subtle toxic patterns in a persons character, that is when toxic patterns like those in the above video may happen.
If you are interested in learning more about toxic people and their patterns, both obvious and subtle, make sure that you sign up for my newsletter. Over the next two months, I will outline the six subtle toxic warning signs above, as well as four more warning signs that people often miss. This information will only be available for my newsletter readers beginning with the next newsletter on Monday, June 11th. In addition, at the end of that newsletter series, I will send you something very valuable.
Also, join us on Thursday, June 7th as we discuss Toxic People with the #InspireChat community onTwitter at 11amEST. Click here for easy access.
Now its YOUR TURN:
What are some toxic patterns that you have observed in people? How have they affected you?
If you seem to always be attracting toxic people into your life, make sure you come back to read my next article later on this week. You will learn how your own toxic thought patterns are related to this attraction.
Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
Empowerment Coach, Speaker and Author
Reiki Master and Intuitive Healer