Toxic People – Six Subtle Warning Signs!

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I believe the root of all people is kindness and love and I want to believe that all people have the best intentions and are emotionally balanced and healthy.

However, the reality is that, due to many reasons that I have shared in the past and in my Overcoming Depression Program, this kindness and love is often clouded in one way or another and many people are toxic to our own mental well-being as well as theirs.

Just like our natural born body (physical) systems that are in place to keep us healthy, due to a plethora of factors,  can become damaged, blocked, and toxic, so can our emotional, mental and energetic systems.

I have been studying people and their personalities, beliefs, characteristics and their emotional and thought patterns since I was very young girl and I have observed that we are all toxic in one way or another.

We have at least one toxic personality that take away our FULL enjoyment of our relationships or some other part of our life. (If you disagree with this statement, please send me a message pointing me in the direction of this person that is perfect in all of their personality traits–we can all learn from them!!). :)

Even though, we are all toxic, there are some toxic patterns that can wreck havoc in others, as well as their own, mental and emotional well being that can affect even their health if these patterns are present for extended periods of time and are not handled in constructive manners.

Some of these toxic patterns are often very easy to recognize within a few encounters with a person, like the following:

  • arguing constantly
  • drinking excessively/alcoholism
  • often picking fights, even when the subject does not matter to the person.
  • putting others down
  • being negative the majority of the time
  • self-pity
  • bullying
These above patterns are usually very easy to see, unless the person already recognizes them as an undesirable trait and then attempts hide them in the beginning of the getting to know each process–which often does happen. But, these patterns usually reveal themselves fairly early.

However, the problem with many toxic patterns, especially the ones listed below, is that people may not easily recognize them before they are affected for too long and the damage to self-confidence and other areas of emotional well being are affected.

Here are 6 of these subtle toxic patterns:

  • Manipulating including some forms of triangulating
  • Internalizing feelings and problems
  • Taking everything personally
  • Adapting to others over and over again
  • Procrastinating
  • Being insincere
These subtle toxic patterns are often the underlying reasons behind the very obvious toxic personality patterns and can lead to toxic relationship patterns causing disharmony between those in a relationship.
Here is a video that I put together showcasing the Warning Signs of Toxic Relationships as shared the some of the members of the #InspireChat community.

Now, keep in mind, that what I am writing about here are PATTERNS, not one time occurrences. We all make misjudgments, mistakes or do things we may not be very proud of at times that can affect others. But, when there is a repeating occurrence of these subtle toxic patterns in a persons character, that is when toxic patterns like those in the above video may happen.

If you are interested in learning more about toxic people and their patterns, both obvious and subtle, make sure that you sign up for my newsletter. Over the next two months, I will outline the six subtle toxic warning signs above, as well as four more warning signs that people often miss. This information will only be available for my newsletter readers beginning with the next newsletter on Monday, June 11th. In addition, at the end of that newsletter series, I will send you something very valuable.

Also, join us on Thursday, June 7th as we discuss Toxic People with the #InspireChat community onTwitter at 11amEST. Click here for easy access.

Now its YOUR TURN:
What are some toxic patterns that you have observed in people? How have they affected you?

If you seem to always be attracting toxic people into your life, make sure you come back to read my next article later on this week. You will learn how your own toxic thought patterns are related to this attraction.

Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP
Empowerment Coach, Speaker and Author
Reiki Master and Intuitive Healer

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  1. Informative Joanne!

    I like all that you mentioned we need to stay away from such kind of people who would harm us in the long run, if our association with them carries on this ways. Those 6 warning signs are good enough indication for anyone to stay away from people bringing in negative vibrations to you.

    I guess most of the time you get that intuition about how or what a person is like, once you spend a few minutes with him or her. However, at other times when you really can’t make out what they are trying to accomplish by having such a relationship with you – such indicators help. :)

    Thanks for sharing. :)
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  2. Been there....

    Toxic people are crazy makers. They dole out abuse to others, deny it when confronted, and then turn the tables and accuse the other person of victimizing them. They are NEVER wrong and ALWAYS justify their own behavior and blame others. They are always the victim!!

    Run from these types. They are a waste of time and energy as they rarely change!!!!

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